After ten years in psychoanalysis, my therapist told me something very touching, he said, “no hablo ingles”.

–Dennis Wolfberg

What Freud forgot to tell you …

For the first time I published two eBooks for the Kindle-Reader. But you can also read it on your smartphone, your PC or your iPad with the free app.

freud ebook cover 3D What Freud forgot to tell you ...“What Freud forgot to tell you about love, life and the rest”

That’s the title of the first book. It contains the best articles from this blog.

No simple tipps but articles which dig ab bit deeper for a better understanding of your every day problems. With drawings by me.

Table of Content

What Freud forgot to tell you?
Why is personal change often so hard?
Why many men stumble over the umbilical cord in their relationships.
“Why do I always fall in love with the wrong guy?”
Forget time-management! Time cannot be managed.
Suppose Steve Jobs would have been your coach …
The Sedona-method®: Four questions that make a change!
How couples manage to talk better with each other.
Live one day without any expectations.
Why your New Year’s resolutions will probably not work.
What type of father was your own father? And what type are you?
Letting go: it’s so hard for us sometimes – but there are ways …
About the author

The ebook contains 77 pages and is illustrated by me.

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It’s your shadow that causes your stagefright.

Many years ago my teacher Ron Kurtz held a workshop with 40 participants where I was assisting him. Everybody waited excitedly. Ron said: “Welcome and hello” to everybody.  And then it happened. All I was able to hear were the murmurous words: “My dear friend Roland will explain the first principle of our HAKOMI-method to you.


How can you overcome hurt, mortification and anger?

The laws of nature give us the certitude that the result of an action is an expected reaction. We turn on the light switch or flush the toilet. We place a book on a shelf and one month later it’s still there. Unless something is broken or there’s another logical explanation. This makes us feel


Why you have to start accepting pain instead of avoiding it.

One of my clients, Anna, is terrified of dogs. When she walks along the street and sees a dog coming from a distance she changes her direction and turns into a street if possible. Even if the dog is still 200 yards away. Mr. M. works in sales and has to do cold calls. That


An astonishing method against fears, worries and musings.

“And how do I get rid of my fears?” I can’t remember how often I‘ve heard this question from my clients within the past 30 years of my career as a therapist. The question usually came up once I had worked with the client for a while and it became obvious we were talking about


Why many men stumble over the umbilical cord in their relationships.

We all are born with an umbilical cord. It is made of human tissue, of  pink color and measures about 20 inches. Immediately after birth it is cut through by the father or the doctor, depending on the parents’ belief. This happens, because the infant now no longer needs to be supplied through his mother’s


Live one day without any expectations.

How much of your stress, frustration, disappointment, anger, irritation, foul mood comes from one little thing? Almost all of it comes from your expectations, and, when things (inevitably) don’t turn out as we expect, from wishing things were different. We build these expectations in our heads of what other people should do, what our lives