Category Archives: Methods

The most important steps in life are always out of the comfort zone.

Think for a moment about the biggest problems in your life. Fearing to start something new. A lack of stamina to accomplish something. Procrastinating to find a new job. Avoiding disputes. Almost all these problems share the following: You are afraid to leave your comfort zone, because it is uncomfortable. Discomfort is not a real […]

It’s your shadow that causes your stagefright.

Many years ago my teacher Ron Kurtz held a workshop with 40 participants where I was assisting him. Everybody waited excitedly. Ron said: “Welcome and hello” to everybody.  And then it happened. All I was able to hear were the murmurous words: “My dear friend Roland will explain the first principle of our HAKOMI-method to you. […]

How can you overcome hurt, mortification and anger?

The laws of nature give us the certitude that the result of an action is an expected reaction. We turn on the light switch or flush the toilet. We place a book on a shelf and one month later it’s still there. Unless something is broken or there’s another logical explanation. This makes us feel […]

Why you have to start accepting pain instead of avoiding it.

One of my clients, Anna, is terrified of dogs. When she walks along the street and sees a dog coming from a distance she changes her direction and turns into a street if possible. Even if the dog is still 200 yards away. Mr. M. works in sales and has to do cold calls. That […]

An astonishing method against fears, worries and musings.

“And how do I get rid of my fears?” I can’t remember how often I‘ve heard this question from my clients within the past 30 years of my career as a therapist. The question usually came up once I had worked with the client for a while and it became obvious we were talking about […]

Why your New Year’s resolutions will most probably remain to be nothing but that – resolutions.

For many people the beginning of a new year is the perfect opportunity to make good resolutions. Of course every other day of the year will serve you just as well. It’s like Mother’s day. Rituals can help you to remember something. Yet having good resolutions is the same with our gratitude we feel for […]

The Sedona-method®: Four questions that make a change!

For some time now I have been trying out a new method for myself and with my clients for making change possible, the SEDONA-Method®. I would like to share it with you. The method consists of four questions and I got it from the book “The Sedona Method®“ by Hale Dwoskin who originally got it […]