Tag Archives: mindfulness

Why you have to start accepting pain instead of avoiding it.

One of my clients, Anna, is terrified of dogs. When she walks along the street and sees a dog coming from a distance she changes her direction and turns into a street if possible. Even if the dog is still 200 yards away. Mr. M. works in sales and has to do cold calls. That […]

Live one day without any expectations.

How much of your stress, frustration, disappointment, anger, irritation, foul mood comes from one little thing? Almost all of it comes from your expectations, and, when things (inevitably) don’t turn out as we expect, from wishing things were different. We build these expectations in our heads of what other people should do, what our lives […]

Why do you need mindfulness to change behavior.

If you can observe your own experience with a minimum of interference, and if you don’t try to control what you experience , if you simply allow things to happen and you observe them, then you will be able to discover things about yourself that you did not know before. You can discover little pieces […]

The five Hakomi principles

Hakomi is paradoxically powerful: it is gentle and nonviolent, yet yields dramatic results rapidly. In many ways, its subtle power flows from the congruence of its methods and techniques with the underlying principles and assumptions that guide it: MINDFULNESS is a powerful tool for helping persons study the organization of their experience. It is an […]